Sorry for the delay in updating on Sofie but I have been super busy..........busy trying to keep up with the little munchkin who doesn't even look like she had surgery on Monday. By the way, she looked like that on Tuesday, the day after surgery too! So far she has ridden her bike everyday, gone back to swimming in the pool and goes non stop all day long. She is still on Tylenol and Ibuprofen but we have weened out the pain killer. She is doing non so bad with keeping hydrated but eating food is another issue. She has to have a soft diet for 7-10 days and she has been turning down stuff constantly. Even her favorite Pediasure isn't being consumed right now. I am praying that this is not the calm before the storm as kids are more prone to complications 7-10 days after surgery. Fingers crossed!!!!
Today we had to go into the Audiologists office to get her new ear mold to replace the one she lost and to get an ear mold made for her Lt ear now that the new ear tube is in. She was not happy about going back to the hospital. At first she was just quiet, but when it came to holding still for the ear exam and the mold fitting there was no cooperation at all. I ended up having to hold her down just to get the mold done. It then took two receptionists, a bucket of stickers, me and Ainsley to get both her hearing aids back into her ears :) It was a great morning!
Through all of this, I have been amazed at how resilient Sofie is. Maybe more reminded about how tough and resilient all our children are. Our children who have spent time living in an orphanage, who have spent time in a hospital in China with no MaMa or BaBa to comfort them, who have fought so hard to survive and live and get healthy. I have heard so many stories from other adoptive Moms who kids just seem to fight through everything and keep on trucking on all with a big huge smile on their face. They are truly amazing children. Must wiser than their years and much stronger than you or I could ever hope to be. It is sad that a child has this ability. Part of me wishes she needed me after surgery just a little more, needed a few more hugs and cuddles and comforting. Sometimes she is such an old soul living in a toddlers body. We love her to pieces :)
P.S. She now has two goose eggs on her forehead and several bug bits around her left eye and she looks like she has been in a battle. None of it from the surgery though :)
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Sunday, July 7, 2013
Back to the OR
I just noticed that it has been over a month since I last posted. What has happened in that month...lots!!
Ainsley had her dance recital, she finished grade two and then celebrated her 8th birthday and had a wonderful party. It was also Jim's birthday and Father's Day. Sofie finished her Speech preschool class, finally figured out how to pedal her bike and how to open the front door all by herself. It is now locked all the time as she likes to leave the house without telling anyone and head next door to the neighbors :) We celebrated Canada Day and the 4th of July and had visitors from out of town for a weekend. The pool is now open and the weather has finally turned warm, hot actually! I planted most of my flowers and I actually got a vegetable garden in this year. I will post a bunch of photos to Shutterfly soon....I promise!!!
Tomorrow Sofie heads back to the hospital for another round in the OR. This is her first of two surgeries this summer. It is much different this time around than it was last summer. She actually remembers last summer's surgery. She has also reverted back to the stage where Mommy has to do everything for her and Daddy cannot. She has suddenly become very clingy to me again. I think this would be much easier if we didn't have to head back to the OR again in 6 weeks. She is definitely going to remember a lot the second time around. I just pray that we don't go back to the night terrors again like she did after her first surgery. 3 months of night terrors, almost every night, was not fun!
Ainsley is also very apprehensive about Sofie's surgeries this time. She gets very stressed with any kind of change. We had a long talk tonight about what is going to happen tomorrow. She finally stopped asking questions and turned to me with this sad little face and told me that she had a bad feeling about tomorrow, that things weren't going to go well. It just broke my heart to see her so upset and to be that worried.
I will post more after the surgery is done. I am a huge mess of emotions tonight and just don't have the energy to explain it all right now :) Please keep Sofie in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow and pray for a speedy recovery :)
Ainsley had her dance recital, she finished grade two and then celebrated her 8th birthday and had a wonderful party. It was also Jim's birthday and Father's Day. Sofie finished her Speech preschool class, finally figured out how to pedal her bike and how to open the front door all by herself. It is now locked all the time as she likes to leave the house without telling anyone and head next door to the neighbors :) We celebrated Canada Day and the 4th of July and had visitors from out of town for a weekend. The pool is now open and the weather has finally turned warm, hot actually! I planted most of my flowers and I actually got a vegetable garden in this year. I will post a bunch of photos to Shutterfly soon....I promise!!!
Tomorrow Sofie heads back to the hospital for another round in the OR. This is her first of two surgeries this summer. It is much different this time around than it was last summer. She actually remembers last summer's surgery. She has also reverted back to the stage where Mommy has to do everything for her and Daddy cannot. She has suddenly become very clingy to me again. I think this would be much easier if we didn't have to head back to the OR again in 6 weeks. She is definitely going to remember a lot the second time around. I just pray that we don't go back to the night terrors again like she did after her first surgery. 3 months of night terrors, almost every night, was not fun!
Ainsley is also very apprehensive about Sofie's surgeries this time. She gets very stressed with any kind of change. We had a long talk tonight about what is going to happen tomorrow. She finally stopped asking questions and turned to me with this sad little face and told me that she had a bad feeling about tomorrow, that things weren't going to go well. It just broke my heart to see her so upset and to be that worried.
I will post more after the surgery is done. I am a huge mess of emotions tonight and just don't have the energy to explain it all right now :) Please keep Sofie in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow and pray for a speedy recovery :)
Friday, May 24, 2013
The newest US Citizen
One year ago today a very weary family of four, who used to be a family of three, were on a Korean Airlines flight from Seoul to the Seattle-Tacoma airport in Washington State. When that plane touched down, the newest member of the Ducharme family officially became a US Citizen. This is how she celebrated :)
She was out cold after having been up for most of the transpacific flight. Ainsley then proceeded to lose a tooth while we were waiting to board the plane to Minneapolis which resulted in much hysterics as she was so upset because how was the tooth fairly ever going to find her!!! We were allowed to pre-board the flight early :)
She was out cold after having been up for most of the transpacific flight. Ainsley then proceeded to lose a tooth while we were waiting to board the plane to Minneapolis which resulted in much hysterics as she was so upset because how was the tooth fairly ever going to find her!!! We were allowed to pre-board the flight early :)
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
A Year Ago.....
One year ago we met a tiny, scared, almost catatonic little girl who could barely walk. We met our youngest daughter for the first time! It was shocking to see her. I remember watching her closely. She would not move anywhere but she watched everything that was going on around her. I remember saying to Jim that it would be OK. She was focused on what was happening and was taking it all in. I knew that there was so much going on inside her little head than she was letting us believe.
It has been an amazing year. I still recall Jim saying that first day that Sofie really needed us. Little did we know that it was us that really needed her. She has given our family infinitely more than we could ever give her. It has been a year full of ups and downs and lots of unknowns. We have had to work through more medical conditions that I thought we would have to, but, always, Sofie leads the way.
Thank you to all our family and friends who have supported us, loved us and accepted Sofie for all that she is. Your support has meant more to us than you could every know!
― William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream
When Ainsley turned 1, we planted a tree for her in the backyard. On Mother's Day, we went out and bought a tree for Sofie in honor of her being part of our family for a year. Ainsley and Sofie picked the tree out by themselves and I can't wait to plant it and watch it grown just as I can't wait to see Ainsley and Sofie grow and change. We are so very blessed :)
It has been an amazing year. I still recall Jim saying that first day that Sofie really needed us. Little did we know that it was us that really needed her. She has given our family infinitely more than we could ever give her. It has been a year full of ups and downs and lots of unknowns. We have had to work through more medical conditions that I thought we would have to, but, always, Sofie leads the way.
Thank you to all our family and friends who have supported us, loved us and accepted Sofie for all that she is. Your support has meant more to us than you could every know!
“Though she be but little, she is fierce!”
― William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream
Sofie, Gotcha Day May 14, 2012
Sofie, Feb, 2013
Monday, May 13, 2013
Heading back to the OR :)
Today we had swimming lessons, a visit with the audiologist, an appointment with the ENT surgeon and speech therapy all between the hours of 1-5pm. Sofie fell asleep on the way home :)
We found out from the ENT surgeon that Sofie has velopharyngeal insufficiency. She is unable to close the velopharyngeal sphincter during speech. She can't force air out through her mouth therefore she sounds hyper nasal and cannot say consonants. She tries so hard but she just can't do it. They will take down part of her palate, lengthen it and narrow it. They will also move some of the muscles on either side of her palate or something like that. By this point in the explanation my head was spinning and I had trouble remembering what he was saying. She also has an ear tube that has dislodged and because of her extremely large tonsils, they will have to be removed prior to her palate surgery. Her tonsils are HUGE! They don't seem to bug her though, there just isn't enough room in there for all of her anatomy so something has to go. The icky part is that the tonsils and the palate cannot be done together. Tonsils are a "dirty" surgery, the palate is "clean" and they have to be done at least 6 weeks apart. We are going to be in the OR a lot this summer. Not how I had envisioned our summer, but so be it. I just hope it helps her and she is able to leap over this hurdle.
I am not going to lie to you. The last palate surgery was brutal. The surgery was fine, the two weeks after were not so much fun. The pneumonia and the months of night terrors is something I would like to avoid. I am so very hopeful that these surgeries will help her over this bump in the road. At the same time, it makes me so sad that this little spitfire is going to have to go through the pain and turmoil of not one, but two surgeries. Both surgeries are an overnight stay in the hospital so not only does it affect Sofie, but, also Ainsley. I am not looking forward to telling Ainsley about it. She is so very sensitive and emotional and she remembers what it was like last summer.
I know that we will come out of this stronger and closer that ever. Sofie is so amazing, and her sister, just as wonderful. We are very lucky. We have two very special little girls :)
We found out from the ENT surgeon that Sofie has velopharyngeal insufficiency. She is unable to close the velopharyngeal sphincter during speech. She can't force air out through her mouth therefore she sounds hyper nasal and cannot say consonants. She tries so hard but she just can't do it. They will take down part of her palate, lengthen it and narrow it. They will also move some of the muscles on either side of her palate or something like that. By this point in the explanation my head was spinning and I had trouble remembering what he was saying. She also has an ear tube that has dislodged and because of her extremely large tonsils, they will have to be removed prior to her palate surgery. Her tonsils are HUGE! They don't seem to bug her though, there just isn't enough room in there for all of her anatomy so something has to go. The icky part is that the tonsils and the palate cannot be done together. Tonsils are a "dirty" surgery, the palate is "clean" and they have to be done at least 6 weeks apart. We are going to be in the OR a lot this summer. Not how I had envisioned our summer, but so be it. I just hope it helps her and she is able to leap over this hurdle.
I am not going to lie to you. The last palate surgery was brutal. The surgery was fine, the two weeks after were not so much fun. The pneumonia and the months of night terrors is something I would like to avoid. I am so very hopeful that these surgeries will help her over this bump in the road. At the same time, it makes me so sad that this little spitfire is going to have to go through the pain and turmoil of not one, but two surgeries. Both surgeries are an overnight stay in the hospital so not only does it affect Sofie, but, also Ainsley. I am not looking forward to telling Ainsley about it. She is so very sensitive and emotional and she remembers what it was like last summer.
I know that we will come out of this stronger and closer that ever. Sofie is so amazing, and her sister, just as wonderful. We are very lucky. We have two very special little girls :)
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Happy Mother's Day!!!
Happy Mother's Day to my Mom who I love more than anything. She is my Mom, my friend, my mentor and the woman I most look up to.
Mother's Day last year was quite different than this year's. There was no special brunch, no presents, no flowers. Just a bundle of nerves, a wonderful home made card from Ainsley and a new little sister. Last year in China, a family of three became a family of four! Last year we met a scared, quiet little girl in an office in Hefei, China. I will never forget that Mother's Day. It was amazing.
Today I also think of Sofie's birth mom, who we have never and might never meet, and Jim's birth mom who we have had the pleasure and honor of meeting. I am awe struck at the magnitude of the gift that Sofie's birth Mom has given us. The honor of raising her daughter is not lost on me. I wish I could reach out to her, give her a hug and tell her that her daughter is doing well. That she is a determined fighter and has overcome so much in her short life. I wish she could know that she is a dynamo and has a personality that just seems to affect people in such an astounding way. I just wish that I could give her some peace of mind and maybe help heal her heart. The always wondering what happened to your child must just be overwhelming.
Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's in the world.....those who are celebrating, those waiting, those who have lost and those who will always wonder :)
Mother's Day last year was quite different than this year's. There was no special brunch, no presents, no flowers. Just a bundle of nerves, a wonderful home made card from Ainsley and a new little sister. Last year in China, a family of three became a family of four! Last year we met a scared, quiet little girl in an office in Hefei, China. I will never forget that Mother's Day. It was amazing.
Today I also think of Sofie's birth mom, who we have never and might never meet, and Jim's birth mom who we have had the pleasure and honor of meeting. I am awe struck at the magnitude of the gift that Sofie's birth Mom has given us. The honor of raising her daughter is not lost on me. I wish I could reach out to her, give her a hug and tell her that her daughter is doing well. That she is a determined fighter and has overcome so much in her short life. I wish she could know that she is a dynamo and has a personality that just seems to affect people in such an astounding way. I just wish that I could give her some peace of mind and maybe help heal her heart. The always wondering what happened to your child must just be overwhelming.
Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's in the world.....those who are celebrating, those waiting, those who have lost and those who will always wonder :)
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Venting
So before Mother's Day and the one year anniversary of Sofie's family or gotcha day, there are a few things that I need to get off my chest. I will not name names as I don't want to upset anyone or experience any repercussions for my rant.
I have never expected people to understand what it is like to wait for and then adopt a child. I have tried to educate people to the process, the emotions, the difficulties and the joys of it all. I have tried to be honest about adopting an older child and about adopting a child with special needs. Some people have been wonderful offering continued and ongoing support and assistance. Others, haven't really tried to understand, which is fine and I don't have a problem with that at all. Adoptive Moms and families just get it with no explanation necessary. They get ALL of it. This group has been amazingly supportive and they still are. I could not do all of this or gotten to where we are with out them or my friends and family who have all been so accepting, welcoming and supportive of Sofie.
What I was not expecting was to be judged by others and to be told what you are doing wrong and how you should do things differently. I was not expecting to be told that I need to do more, contribute more and be more by people who have no idea how it is to walk in our shoes. Those who have never been through this and have never taken the time to find out what our daily routine is....they have never walked in my shoes so don't judge me. All they see is a cute little girl who says hi and they assume that everything is OK and our family is now like every other family out there. Every family is different and has their own challenges to overcome. I have had a lot of difficulty with this the last month and I feel hurt by it all. I treat people a certain way and I expect, apparently incorrectly, to be treated the same.
Thank you to all those who have stood by us, supported us and tried to understand what it is like to be us. Somedays I am Super Mom, some days an average Mom, some days I fall flat on my face and I fail miserably. Always, I love my kids and my family and they come first in my life. It is times like this when you really find out who your true friends are......and I thank you from the bottom of my very tired heart :)
Here are a few links to articles that I thought would be interesting to share with everyone. Thanks for listening to me.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lea-grover/dear-less-than-perfect-mom_b_3184445.html
http://www.kathylynnharris.com/dear-moms-of-adopted-children/
I have never expected people to understand what it is like to wait for and then adopt a child. I have tried to educate people to the process, the emotions, the difficulties and the joys of it all. I have tried to be honest about adopting an older child and about adopting a child with special needs. Some people have been wonderful offering continued and ongoing support and assistance. Others, haven't really tried to understand, which is fine and I don't have a problem with that at all. Adoptive Moms and families just get it with no explanation necessary. They get ALL of it. This group has been amazingly supportive and they still are. I could not do all of this or gotten to where we are with out them or my friends and family who have all been so accepting, welcoming and supportive of Sofie.
What I was not expecting was to be judged by others and to be told what you are doing wrong and how you should do things differently. I was not expecting to be told that I need to do more, contribute more and be more by people who have no idea how it is to walk in our shoes. Those who have never been through this and have never taken the time to find out what our daily routine is....they have never walked in my shoes so don't judge me. All they see is a cute little girl who says hi and they assume that everything is OK and our family is now like every other family out there. Every family is different and has their own challenges to overcome. I have had a lot of difficulty with this the last month and I feel hurt by it all. I treat people a certain way and I expect, apparently incorrectly, to be treated the same.
Thank you to all those who have stood by us, supported us and tried to understand what it is like to be us. Somedays I am Super Mom, some days an average Mom, some days I fall flat on my face and I fail miserably. Always, I love my kids and my family and they come first in my life. It is times like this when you really find out who your true friends are......and I thank you from the bottom of my very tired heart :)
Here are a few links to articles that I thought would be interesting to share with everyone. Thanks for listening to me.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lea-grover/dear-less-than-perfect-mom_b_3184445.html
http://www.kathylynnharris.com/dear-moms-of-adopted-children/
Monday, April 22, 2013
Her Name!!!!
This is a short post! Sofie for the first time EVER said her name tonight :) OMG copious smiles in the house tonight. She has never been able to answer when someone has asked her what her name was. It has been one of the things that always made me sad. She knows what her name is, she answers to it all the time. She just didn't know how to say it. Well, tonight it came out about 50 times. It is not perfect. S and F are almost impossible for her to say at this point. It sounds more like OATEE and the T is really soft and barely audible. Still, I don't care, she said it and that is all that matters :)
Friday, April 19, 2013
Trying to stay strong and patient!
It has been a kind of a difficult week. It is hard to complain about it though when I see what other adoptive parents are going through with their sick kiddos and all the other events that have happened across this country. It does help put things in perspective, still, this is what we deal with on a daily basis. I have been trying to keep my posts fairly upbeat as our life is pretty darn fantastic. It can still be tiresome and require a lot of patience. I remember though, when I first started blogging, that one of the reasons I was going to blog was to educate and help anyone who read it. I wanted to be honest.
Sofie has made remarkable strides with her speech therapy. She has learned how to move her lips and tongue to make sounds and she does an amazing job with all her vowels. The consonants she has a much harder time with. If you plug her nose and get her to say a word, some consonants, like B and P she can say. Unplug her nose and they come out like vowels. Because of her cleft, she has air escaping into her nasal cavity and she cannot trap enough air in her mouth to force the consonant sound out. We are pretty sure that it is going to require another surgery to correct. Her tonsils are also very large and we may end up having to get those removed before they can do the speech surgery. We will meet with the ENT soon to see how and when to proceed. It is much different this time going into a surgery knowing full well what you are in for. It is not a minor procedure and it will be another painful surgery with only a liquid diet at the end. I try not to dwell on it, but I can't help it. It makes me very sad knowing what she could be in for.
Her speech therapy also involves a lot of thinking outside the box. She can't be treated as simply a cleft kiddo with a speech impairment or as a hard of hearing kiddo with a speech impairment. Factor in that she was adopted at the age of 2 1/2 and never learned her mother tongue, and you have to do a lot of adapting in Sofie's treatment and therapy. One of her speech pathologists is great at that, the other one is still on a learning curve. That frustrates me sometimes :)
Sofie is also starting to get very frustrated at times. It is hard to know what to attribute each behavior too. She is 3, hard of hearing and has a difficult time making people understand her when she talks. Bad combination!!! Most of the time I can understand what she is getting at. The odd time when I have no idea what she is talking about, she gets very angry. Lots of temper tantrums, but she is also 3....lots of temper tantrums. The more words she learns, the harder it is to understand her. People think it would be easier to understand because her language base is expanding. Not so. Keep in mind that she knows what the word means, she just can't say it well enough to have someone else understand it. It is like you have had a stroke and you know what you are trying to say and NO ONE gets it!!! Very frustrating....and you are 3 :) I have more patience than I ever knew I had....and less some days too! It is so stressful to be driving down the highway and have your child say something to you over and over again and you have no idea what they are trying to say or what point they are trying to get across. She gets madder and madder and I am trying to drive a car. It ended up with the both of us bawling our eyes out in the driveway :) We then went in the house and had some chocolate and all was right with the world again :)
It is such a difficult thing to explain to someone, so hard to put into words. She is such an amazing little girl who just attacks life head on and smiles through it all. I think that is what makes the times that she gets angry and frustrated so difficult. It is really not like her and it breaks my heart when I don't understand her. I guess I feel a little guilty. I am supposed to figure this stuff out. She has to learn how to hear, how to listen, how to move her lips and tongue to make sounds, what sounds to make when and what they all mean......wow! She has come a long way, but, she has such a long way to go yet. I am worried that the surgery won't help with her speech. I know that there is nothing I can do about it so there is no point in worrying about it. That is what I tell myself anyway. Sofie has been through so much already. She just needs to catch a break. She really needs this surgery, if it happens, to be extremely successful.
I try to focus on all that is wonderful in our lives, which is a lot. Ainsley is so good with her sister. They play school together, dress up in funny clothes and just love each other immensely. They dance sing and play together, all that sisters are supposed to do. Sofie is still just a riot and constantly has us laughing. She is so goofy and just loves people. I love my kids dearly and I wouldn't change a thing about our lives at all, ever. Sometimes I just need to let it out :)
Sofie has made remarkable strides with her speech therapy. She has learned how to move her lips and tongue to make sounds and she does an amazing job with all her vowels. The consonants she has a much harder time with. If you plug her nose and get her to say a word, some consonants, like B and P she can say. Unplug her nose and they come out like vowels. Because of her cleft, she has air escaping into her nasal cavity and she cannot trap enough air in her mouth to force the consonant sound out. We are pretty sure that it is going to require another surgery to correct. Her tonsils are also very large and we may end up having to get those removed before they can do the speech surgery. We will meet with the ENT soon to see how and when to proceed. It is much different this time going into a surgery knowing full well what you are in for. It is not a minor procedure and it will be another painful surgery with only a liquid diet at the end. I try not to dwell on it, but I can't help it. It makes me very sad knowing what she could be in for.
Her speech therapy also involves a lot of thinking outside the box. She can't be treated as simply a cleft kiddo with a speech impairment or as a hard of hearing kiddo with a speech impairment. Factor in that she was adopted at the age of 2 1/2 and never learned her mother tongue, and you have to do a lot of adapting in Sofie's treatment and therapy. One of her speech pathologists is great at that, the other one is still on a learning curve. That frustrates me sometimes :)
Sofie is also starting to get very frustrated at times. It is hard to know what to attribute each behavior too. She is 3, hard of hearing and has a difficult time making people understand her when she talks. Bad combination!!! Most of the time I can understand what she is getting at. The odd time when I have no idea what she is talking about, she gets very angry. Lots of temper tantrums, but she is also 3....lots of temper tantrums. The more words she learns, the harder it is to understand her. People think it would be easier to understand because her language base is expanding. Not so. Keep in mind that she knows what the word means, she just can't say it well enough to have someone else understand it. It is like you have had a stroke and you know what you are trying to say and NO ONE gets it!!! Very frustrating....and you are 3 :) I have more patience than I ever knew I had....and less some days too! It is so stressful to be driving down the highway and have your child say something to you over and over again and you have no idea what they are trying to say or what point they are trying to get across. She gets madder and madder and I am trying to drive a car. It ended up with the both of us bawling our eyes out in the driveway :) We then went in the house and had some chocolate and all was right with the world again :)
It is such a difficult thing to explain to someone, so hard to put into words. She is such an amazing little girl who just attacks life head on and smiles through it all. I think that is what makes the times that she gets angry and frustrated so difficult. It is really not like her and it breaks my heart when I don't understand her. I guess I feel a little guilty. I am supposed to figure this stuff out. She has to learn how to hear, how to listen, how to move her lips and tongue to make sounds, what sounds to make when and what they all mean......wow! She has come a long way, but, she has such a long way to go yet. I am worried that the surgery won't help with her speech. I know that there is nothing I can do about it so there is no point in worrying about it. That is what I tell myself anyway. Sofie has been through so much already. She just needs to catch a break. She really needs this surgery, if it happens, to be extremely successful.
I try to focus on all that is wonderful in our lives, which is a lot. Ainsley is so good with her sister. They play school together, dress up in funny clothes and just love each other immensely. They dance sing and play together, all that sisters are supposed to do. Sofie is still just a riot and constantly has us laughing. She is so goofy and just loves people. I love my kids dearly and I wouldn't change a thing about our lives at all, ever. Sometimes I just need to let it out :)
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Almost 11 months
We are coming up on Sofie's 11 month anniversary of her forever family day. I cannot believe it has been almost a year already. Where does the time go???
Life is still just a continual whirlwind of activity and comings and goings. I really need a secretary. I am really good at remembering where and when each kid has to go somewhere or do something, not so good at organizing the bill paying and appointments. I have been trying for 3 weeks now to make dental appointments for all of us. Yes, it sounds easy to do, yet, it seems to never get done. I don't make them because I have so many other more pressing appointments to make so I wait until I get those done so I don't have to call back and reschedule and then more appointments pop up and the dentist keeps getting pushed back. It sounds so easy in writing :)
We went to Huatulco Mexico on the March break and had a fantastic time. We met several other very nice families all from Minnesota. The resort was wonderful and the area was the "real" Mexico and not all touristy. I will post some pictures on a link for you to look at.
We were very concerned with how Sofie would do on this trip. It was her first plane ride since coming home from China. We talked about it as much we could and tried to prepare her. She shut down when we got to the airport and started rocking back and forth from her front leg to her back leg. This is what she does when she is very stressed out and can't cope with it. Once we reached the terminal she slowly started calming down. By the time we got on the plane she was all excited and demanded to be in charge of her carry on bag.....too cute. When the pilot turned off the seatbelt sign, Sofie turned around and looked down the plane. At that point she realized that she had a totally captive audience and she let out a big HI and then continued to entertain the whole plane with songs and dance. That's my girl. She made more friends on this trip than I think the rest of us did combined. We relaxed by the pool and walked on the beach and had a very enjoyable family vacation. We even went to a sea turtle sanctuary and got to release baby sea turtles, who were only a few hours old, into the ocean. What an amazing experience. We also got to take a tour by boat of a lagoon that is next to the ocean that is full of crocodiles and all sorts of wildlife. We stopped at an island to have beer, pop and home made quesadillas that were cooked on an open fire. It was sooooooooo good!
Because we basically were in the water or a pool or sand for about a week, Sofie rarely was able to wear her hearing aids. It was an interesting week. She regressed quite a bit over the week, both with her potty training and with her language. There was a lot more baby talk and she stopped even trying to say the words properly or try to communicate with sign language. Since we have been back home and she has been wearing her aids, there is a big difference. As her deaf/hard of hearing teacher stated, it is a good thing to know that her aids are actually making a difference.
We have another meeting with Early Childhood Ed on April 22 to determine which kind of and where Sofie will take classes next year. It should be an interesting meeting. It has taken them since January to determine that their FM system is not compatible with her hearing aids. She was hearing her class in one ear and a class next door in the other ear. It was very frustrating for her and we have finally determined that they will use her personal FM system at school until they can order her one in July. Gotta love dealing with the Dept of Education :)
I will try to post some pictures from out trip on a link today or tomorrow :)
Life is still just a continual whirlwind of activity and comings and goings. I really need a secretary. I am really good at remembering where and when each kid has to go somewhere or do something, not so good at organizing the bill paying and appointments. I have been trying for 3 weeks now to make dental appointments for all of us. Yes, it sounds easy to do, yet, it seems to never get done. I don't make them because I have so many other more pressing appointments to make so I wait until I get those done so I don't have to call back and reschedule and then more appointments pop up and the dentist keeps getting pushed back. It sounds so easy in writing :)
We went to Huatulco Mexico on the March break and had a fantastic time. We met several other very nice families all from Minnesota. The resort was wonderful and the area was the "real" Mexico and not all touristy. I will post some pictures on a link for you to look at.
We were very concerned with how Sofie would do on this trip. It was her first plane ride since coming home from China. We talked about it as much we could and tried to prepare her. She shut down when we got to the airport and started rocking back and forth from her front leg to her back leg. This is what she does when she is very stressed out and can't cope with it. Once we reached the terminal she slowly started calming down. By the time we got on the plane she was all excited and demanded to be in charge of her carry on bag.....too cute. When the pilot turned off the seatbelt sign, Sofie turned around and looked down the plane. At that point she realized that she had a totally captive audience and she let out a big HI and then continued to entertain the whole plane with songs and dance. That's my girl. She made more friends on this trip than I think the rest of us did combined. We relaxed by the pool and walked on the beach and had a very enjoyable family vacation. We even went to a sea turtle sanctuary and got to release baby sea turtles, who were only a few hours old, into the ocean. What an amazing experience. We also got to take a tour by boat of a lagoon that is next to the ocean that is full of crocodiles and all sorts of wildlife. We stopped at an island to have beer, pop and home made quesadillas that were cooked on an open fire. It was sooooooooo good!
Because we basically were in the water or a pool or sand for about a week, Sofie rarely was able to wear her hearing aids. It was an interesting week. She regressed quite a bit over the week, both with her potty training and with her language. There was a lot more baby talk and she stopped even trying to say the words properly or try to communicate with sign language. Since we have been back home and she has been wearing her aids, there is a big difference. As her deaf/hard of hearing teacher stated, it is a good thing to know that her aids are actually making a difference.
We have another meeting with Early Childhood Ed on April 22 to determine which kind of and where Sofie will take classes next year. It should be an interesting meeting. It has taken them since January to determine that their FM system is not compatible with her hearing aids. She was hearing her class in one ear and a class next door in the other ear. It was very frustrating for her and we have finally determined that they will use her personal FM system at school until they can order her one in July. Gotta love dealing with the Dept of Education :)
I will try to post some pictures from out trip on a link today or tomorrow :)
Monday, March 4, 2013
It's a good life
It has been almost 10 months since we have been home from China. 10 months that Sofie has been a part of our family. Adoption is a strange thing. When you first get home, it is difficult. Every day is a challenge of ups and downs. You then hit this magic point, and, things get better. A little easier every day. And then, for us at least, all the therapies start and you a thrust back into an unorganized life. It is all fun though. All it takes is watching Ainsley and Sofie play together and it just makes my heart sing and I realize how far we have all come. You kinda get lulled into a sense of security and comfort. You start to feel like this small, wonderful child has always been here with you. She is such a part of your life that you forget what it was like without her. And then something happens and you remember how very much your child has lost and left behind. She had a whole other life before her life with us. It may not be the life that anyone would choose, but, it was her life and all she knew.
We were looking at the Love Without Boundaries blog when a picture of a little girl who had just been adopted came up. She had been in the same Healing Home that Sofie had been in although they was a year between their stays there. Sofie jumped up out of my lap and hugged the laptop and then started kissing the picture of the little girl and her foster family. She did this over and over again. It just blew me away! She doesn't usually react that way to pictures of children who were in the orphanage with her. It just hit me that she has memories and relationships with people that were awesome, wonderful and had an impact on her. It made me sad to think of all the people and the life she had to leave behind. It also made me very sad that she cannot tell me anything about her time in China or about the picture. I still don't know if it was the little girl who elicited that reaction from her or the foster family or the background in the picture. I just wish that she could tell me some things about her prior life. Memories that I could preserve for her. I realize how fortunate we are though. Because of LWB and Half the Sky, we have baby pictures of Sofie and pictures of her growing up. Priceless things that most parents do not have. We are so fortunate and lucky.
Sofie has come a long way with her speech therapy. We still have a very long way to go. So many people ask us if she is getting better at speaking English now. They don't realize or understand that Sofie not only needs to learn English, she needs to learn to speak and listen. I can use a cat analogy to explain it. At some point in her life, Sofie saw a cat. She knew what is was, but, she had never really heard the proper term for what a cat was in any language. She had never really heard what noise a cat made therefore, she had never associated meow with a cat. She not only had to learn to say CAT, she also had to learn to say meow and to learn that a cat says meow. She needed to learn to put it all together. She needs to learn how to do this with everything. At times, it can seem overwhelming. It feels like we are never going to get there...and then Sofie flashes one of her trademark billion watt smiles and she does this:
There are good days, not so good days, frustrating days and extremely joyful days full of laughter and giggles. We are so very fortunate and blessed to be parents to these two wonderful girls. I just look at Sofie and all that she has been through and all that she has overcome and will have to overcome and I just smile. Bad days just seem to melt away when you look into her eyes. If she can still giggle and smile after everything she has been through then I can overcome anything that gets thrown my way.
Ainsley is still just loving having a sister and having a hard time not hugging her sister to death. It is still just the most amazing thing to watch them play together and love each other. Sofie just loves doing whatever Ainsley is doing. It is sooooo cute to watch. Ainsley is the most caring compassionate sister ever. She is an unbelievable sharer. She gives toys up to Sofie when she wants them and is just awesome with her sister. I have to stop sometimes and make sure that Sofie is not taking advantage of her sister's generosity. Ainsley came home from school the other day and she looked upset. I asked her what was wrong. She told me that someone at school was making fun of China. They were walking around saying China China China. They had been studying Chinese New Year at the time. Ainsley asked him to stop please. He asked her why she cared so much. She told him that her sister was born in China. She was very upset when she got home. While we were talking, she told me "Mommy I just really loved going to China. I love China. I loved all the kids I met in Sofie's orphanage and I just want to help China and all the kids in China." That is my sweet compassionate Ainsley. I was so proud of her when she said that. So very proud :)
We were looking at the Love Without Boundaries blog when a picture of a little girl who had just been adopted came up. She had been in the same Healing Home that Sofie had been in although they was a year between their stays there. Sofie jumped up out of my lap and hugged the laptop and then started kissing the picture of the little girl and her foster family. She did this over and over again. It just blew me away! She doesn't usually react that way to pictures of children who were in the orphanage with her. It just hit me that she has memories and relationships with people that were awesome, wonderful and had an impact on her. It made me sad to think of all the people and the life she had to leave behind. It also made me very sad that she cannot tell me anything about her time in China or about the picture. I still don't know if it was the little girl who elicited that reaction from her or the foster family or the background in the picture. I just wish that she could tell me some things about her prior life. Memories that I could preserve for her. I realize how fortunate we are though. Because of LWB and Half the Sky, we have baby pictures of Sofie and pictures of her growing up. Priceless things that most parents do not have. We are so fortunate and lucky.
Sofie has come a long way with her speech therapy. We still have a very long way to go. So many people ask us if she is getting better at speaking English now. They don't realize or understand that Sofie not only needs to learn English, she needs to learn to speak and listen. I can use a cat analogy to explain it. At some point in her life, Sofie saw a cat. She knew what is was, but, she had never really heard the proper term for what a cat was in any language. She had never really heard what noise a cat made therefore, she had never associated meow with a cat. She not only had to learn to say CAT, she also had to learn to say meow and to learn that a cat says meow. She needed to learn to put it all together. She needs to learn how to do this with everything. At times, it can seem overwhelming. It feels like we are never going to get there...and then Sofie flashes one of her trademark billion watt smiles and she does this:
There are good days, not so good days, frustrating days and extremely joyful days full of laughter and giggles. We are so very fortunate and blessed to be parents to these two wonderful girls. I just look at Sofie and all that she has been through and all that she has overcome and will have to overcome and I just smile. Bad days just seem to melt away when you look into her eyes. If she can still giggle and smile after everything she has been through then I can overcome anything that gets thrown my way.
Ainsley is still just loving having a sister and having a hard time not hugging her sister to death. It is still just the most amazing thing to watch them play together and love each other. Sofie just loves doing whatever Ainsley is doing. It is sooooo cute to watch. Ainsley is the most caring compassionate sister ever. She is an unbelievable sharer. She gives toys up to Sofie when she wants them and is just awesome with her sister. I have to stop sometimes and make sure that Sofie is not taking advantage of her sister's generosity. Ainsley came home from school the other day and she looked upset. I asked her what was wrong. She told me that someone at school was making fun of China. They were walking around saying China China China. They had been studying Chinese New Year at the time. Ainsley asked him to stop please. He asked her why she cared so much. She told him that her sister was born in China. She was very upset when she got home. While we were talking, she told me "Mommy I just really loved going to China. I love China. I loved all the kids I met in Sofie's orphanage and I just want to help China and all the kids in China." That is my sweet compassionate Ainsley. I was so proud of her when she said that. So very proud :)
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Happy New Year
A very happy new year to everyone. 2013 is the year of the snake. It can be filled with lots of ups and downs!! I need some smooth sailing right now not ups and downs.
My Dad is doing pretty good. He has lots of decisions to make but he has in no way given up the fight. He is the strongest person I have ever met or been around. He truly is just grateful for every day that he is given and just wants to spend those days with his family. I had a great time visiting with them without any distractions. I was a treasured time.
We are celebrating Chinese New Year next weekend with our friends as I was supposed to be out of town on Sunday. I ended up coming home on Saturday due to a nasty snow storm that meandered our way. I was very glad that I came home early!!!
So this is going to be one of those posts that are written over several days :) Trying to find the time is really difficult.
Last night we had our Chinese New Year dinner. It was wonderful and I know I made some of the food, but it rocked. The leftovers tonight we just as fantastic. I didn't take any pictures as I was busy cooking, but, everyone else has pictures so I will post them as soon as I get a hold of them. It was so cute seeing the three little 3 year olds together again. They don't really play together. They just hang out in the same room together. They are still super cute when you can get them to all stand beside each other and hold still. By the way, the copy cat PF Chang's Mongolian Beef recipe on Pinterest is super easy to make and it is to die for!!!! I made two sirloin roasts and we hardly have any left.
Tomorrow, Ainsley, Sofie and I are going to a Chinese New Year luncheon with a play group of adoptive parents and adopted kids. I hope they have other foods available as I am not sure I am going to be able to get anymore Chinese food into my two kids. They have had enough. I, on the other hand, could eat it every day :) I am looking forward to meeting with some other Mom's who have been there done that. I am feeling a little lost and out of sorts since Christmas. It has been a month since Sofie's intense speech therapy schedule starting and I just haven't been able to get into a groove with out schedule. I feel like I am always running around like a chicken with their head chopped off! Don't even talk to me about laundry :( This is why I am up at 11:30 pm writing a blog post while folding laundry.
Today was an awesome day. For a while now, Sofie has been calling me Mama. She also calls everyone else Mama when she needs something from them. It is also a really loud demanding Mama, like I need something so pay attention. It hasn't really bothered me that much because I know that she knows who MAMA is.....me! Ainsley has always called me Mommy or Mom. That is what I called my Mom so I just worked for us. Today, Sofie came up to me to ask something and clear as day said "Mommy." I stopped and my heart just melted. I heard "Mommy" over and over again all day long. Once she figured out that I liked her saying that, she didn't stop all day long. While I know that one day I will grow tired of the incessant Mommy mommy mommy, for right now, it is priceless. I am no longer Mama I need something.......I am Mommy! Just plain old Mommy and I love it :)
My Dad is doing pretty good. He has lots of decisions to make but he has in no way given up the fight. He is the strongest person I have ever met or been around. He truly is just grateful for every day that he is given and just wants to spend those days with his family. I had a great time visiting with them without any distractions. I was a treasured time.
We are celebrating Chinese New Year next weekend with our friends as I was supposed to be out of town on Sunday. I ended up coming home on Saturday due to a nasty snow storm that meandered our way. I was very glad that I came home early!!!
So this is going to be one of those posts that are written over several days :) Trying to find the time is really difficult.
Last night we had our Chinese New Year dinner. It was wonderful and I know I made some of the food, but it rocked. The leftovers tonight we just as fantastic. I didn't take any pictures as I was busy cooking, but, everyone else has pictures so I will post them as soon as I get a hold of them. It was so cute seeing the three little 3 year olds together again. They don't really play together. They just hang out in the same room together. They are still super cute when you can get them to all stand beside each other and hold still. By the way, the copy cat PF Chang's Mongolian Beef recipe on Pinterest is super easy to make and it is to die for!!!! I made two sirloin roasts and we hardly have any left.
Tomorrow, Ainsley, Sofie and I are going to a Chinese New Year luncheon with a play group of adoptive parents and adopted kids. I hope they have other foods available as I am not sure I am going to be able to get anymore Chinese food into my two kids. They have had enough. I, on the other hand, could eat it every day :) I am looking forward to meeting with some other Mom's who have been there done that. I am feeling a little lost and out of sorts since Christmas. It has been a month since Sofie's intense speech therapy schedule starting and I just haven't been able to get into a groove with out schedule. I feel like I am always running around like a chicken with their head chopped off! Don't even talk to me about laundry :( This is why I am up at 11:30 pm writing a blog post while folding laundry.
Today was an awesome day. For a while now, Sofie has been calling me Mama. She also calls everyone else Mama when she needs something from them. It is also a really loud demanding Mama, like I need something so pay attention. It hasn't really bothered me that much because I know that she knows who MAMA is.....me! Ainsley has always called me Mommy or Mom. That is what I called my Mom so I just worked for us. Today, Sofie came up to me to ask something and clear as day said "Mommy." I stopped and my heart just melted. I heard "Mommy" over and over again all day long. Once she figured out that I liked her saying that, she didn't stop all day long. While I know that one day I will grow tired of the incessant Mommy mommy mommy, for right now, it is priceless. I am no longer Mama I need something.......I am Mommy! Just plain old Mommy and I love it :)
Sunday, February 3, 2013
It has been a tough month
I have been trying and needing to do a post and let off some steam. I just don't seem to have the time, the emotional fortitude nor the words to do so. So here goes it..........
As some of you may know, my Dad has been in his second battle with prostate cancer, his third battle with the ugly beast called cancer. He never complains, never feels sorry for himself and just wants to hang out with his family and grandkids whenever he is able to. Hence, the trip down to Minneapolis for Christmas which required postponing a round of chemotherapy to do so. I think he was prepared to walk down here. We had a wonderful time. While he was here, he came down with a nasty cold and looked just awful. Everyone headed back up to Thunder Bay the Thursday after New Year's. I got off work on Friday and looked at my phone on the way out. I had two text messages from my Mom. My Dad had been taken into hospital in an ambulance. I think my heart just dropped out of my chest. He was very weak and couldn't walk. His cough was awful and he was having a hard time breathing. The EMT noticed something on his EKG in the ambulance and made the ER physician aware of it when they got to the hospital. They did the usual battery of blood work and tests and he spent almost a week in the hospital. We found out that he now has COPD and had a heart attack probably at the end of their trip down here. His hemoglobin was also really low so he ended up getting 3 units of blood while in the hospital. He gets a little better and has a little more strength every day. He is still not back to his usual self. We have no idea what caused the heart attack. Whether it was the low hemoglobin, the cold or the chemo or the combination of all three. He has resumed biweekly chemo sessions and I am just so worried about what the chemo is doing to the rest of his body. The chemo is also not doing what it should be doing. His cancer is spreading and the next chemo has just awful side effects. I am heading up to Thunder Bay next week to meet with my Dad's oncologist. I have about a billion questions for her. I don't know what else to say......I am scared and worried. He still does not complain about anything at all. I am worried about my Mom too. She has been through a lot the last few months too. It will be nice to see my Mom and Dad again. I just wish we were closer to them so I could spend every moment I had free with them. Sometimes life just seems to stand still, like when you are waiting to adopt, and sometimes it just flies by all to quickly. There is so much more that I want to say, yet, I cannot seem to find the words. My father is a great man. He has touched the lives of everyone he has ever met, and then some :)
As some of you may know, my Dad has been in his second battle with prostate cancer, his third battle with the ugly beast called cancer. He never complains, never feels sorry for himself and just wants to hang out with his family and grandkids whenever he is able to. Hence, the trip down to Minneapolis for Christmas which required postponing a round of chemotherapy to do so. I think he was prepared to walk down here. We had a wonderful time. While he was here, he came down with a nasty cold and looked just awful. Everyone headed back up to Thunder Bay the Thursday after New Year's. I got off work on Friday and looked at my phone on the way out. I had two text messages from my Mom. My Dad had been taken into hospital in an ambulance. I think my heart just dropped out of my chest. He was very weak and couldn't walk. His cough was awful and he was having a hard time breathing. The EMT noticed something on his EKG in the ambulance and made the ER physician aware of it when they got to the hospital. They did the usual battery of blood work and tests and he spent almost a week in the hospital. We found out that he now has COPD and had a heart attack probably at the end of their trip down here. His hemoglobin was also really low so he ended up getting 3 units of blood while in the hospital. He gets a little better and has a little more strength every day. He is still not back to his usual self. We have no idea what caused the heart attack. Whether it was the low hemoglobin, the cold or the chemo or the combination of all three. He has resumed biweekly chemo sessions and I am just so worried about what the chemo is doing to the rest of his body. The chemo is also not doing what it should be doing. His cancer is spreading and the next chemo has just awful side effects. I am heading up to Thunder Bay next week to meet with my Dad's oncologist. I have about a billion questions for her. I don't know what else to say......I am scared and worried. He still does not complain about anything at all. I am worried about my Mom too. She has been through a lot the last few months too. It will be nice to see my Mom and Dad again. I just wish we were closer to them so I could spend every moment I had free with them. Sometimes life just seems to stand still, like when you are waiting to adopt, and sometimes it just flies by all to quickly. There is so much more that I want to say, yet, I cannot seem to find the words. My father is a great man. He has touched the lives of everyone he has ever met, and then some :)
Saturday, February 2, 2013
More stories.....
Well, here is the lost hearing aid story. Sofie had her first speech therapy session at the beginning of December. We left the clinic and went to Menards to buy some Christmas lights and then came home and had some lunch. Sofie was playing with her toys in the kitchen so I logged onto the computer to catch up on some emails. Pretty soon, Sofie came up to me and was trying to get a necklace around her neck. She had tried to do this the other day and had pulled out one of her hearing aids. When she got close enough to me, I noticed that one of her hearing aids was gone. We immediately started searching. I put the dog in her kennel just in case she got a hold of it. I looked everywhere and Miss Farty Pants was no help. I finally asked her several times where her hearing aid was. She bent down and pointed to underneath the kitchen cabinet. I didn't panic at all, no big deal, until I reached under the cabinet and there was a gap between the baseboard and the cabinet. It was just big enough to fit a hearing aid :( I panicked!!!!!!! Sofie was insistent that she shoved her hearing aid up underneath the cabinet. She even showed me how she did it. Jim came home from work and we drilled a hole in the bottom of the cabinet. He was able to reach into the little space and feel around the whole cavity. NO HEARING AID......at all. I totally panicked now. She has only had them for 2 weeks and one hearing aid is around $2500!!!! I look at Sofie and ask her where it is. She shrugs her shoulders and walks away!!!!!!!!!!!! Clearly, the significance of this is lost on a toddler. I start retracing our steps throughout the day. On a whim, Jim calls Menards and sure enough someone turned in her hearing aid. Thank you so much kind soul whoever you are :) Sofie now wears straps that go around each aid and attach to her shirt. She can't lose them......hopefully! She still insists to this day that her hearing aid was under the kitchen cabinet??????????????????
Speech therapy is going fairly well. It is a long, slow process where accomplishments are measured in very tiny steps. Both of her Speech Pathologists talk to each other on the phone and make sure that they are on the same page. I am very appreciative of that. One works for the school district and the other for the ENT office so it wouldn't necessarily be like that normally. Everyone keeps telling me that Sofie will catch up and she will be fine. I know she is an amazing kid who has overcome so much already. She meets all of life's challenges head on with no fear at all. I think the only other people who get it is Jim and our Audiologist. Sofie has a huge mountain to overcome. I am not saying she won't, I am just saying it is huge. She has all the articulation problems that a cleft kiddo has, but, she has also had auditory deprivation for almost 3 years. She not only has to learn how to speak and how to form words and sounds, she also has to learn to listen. She has no idea what sound a kitten makes or a dog or a car. She has probably never truly heard these sounds and therefore cannot associate these sounds with a particular object. Our Deaf and Hard of Hearing teacher is wonderful. She gives me all kinds of hints and assistance on how to help Sofie. I truly don't know what I would do without her. She just gets all the problems that Sofie faces and has wonderful ideas on how to help her overcome them. All of her therapists are also very adaptable. They have all decided that instead of just teaching Sofie how to say certain words and sounds, they would help her learn words that she would use in everyday life first and then worry about the traditional teaching pattern that you would normally follow later. They are a wonderful group of people and they have all been very helpful and have guided us at a time where we feel like we have no idea what we are doing. I would be lost without them :)
Speech therapy is going fairly well. It is a long, slow process where accomplishments are measured in very tiny steps. Both of her Speech Pathologists talk to each other on the phone and make sure that they are on the same page. I am very appreciative of that. One works for the school district and the other for the ENT office so it wouldn't necessarily be like that normally. Everyone keeps telling me that Sofie will catch up and she will be fine. I know she is an amazing kid who has overcome so much already. She meets all of life's challenges head on with no fear at all. I think the only other people who get it is Jim and our Audiologist. Sofie has a huge mountain to overcome. I am not saying she won't, I am just saying it is huge. She has all the articulation problems that a cleft kiddo has, but, she has also had auditory deprivation for almost 3 years. She not only has to learn how to speak and how to form words and sounds, she also has to learn to listen. She has no idea what sound a kitten makes or a dog or a car. She has probably never truly heard these sounds and therefore cannot associate these sounds with a particular object. Our Deaf and Hard of Hearing teacher is wonderful. She gives me all kinds of hints and assistance on how to help Sofie. I truly don't know what I would do without her. She just gets all the problems that Sofie faces and has wonderful ideas on how to help her overcome them. All of her therapists are also very adaptable. They have all decided that instead of just teaching Sofie how to say certain words and sounds, they would help her learn words that she would use in everyday life first and then worry about the traditional teaching pattern that you would normally follow later. They are a wonderful group of people and they have all been very helpful and have guided us at a time where we feel like we have no idea what we are doing. I would be lost without them :)
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
2 more articles
Here are the links to the next two articles from Love Without Boundaries. My heart was moved today when our eldest daughter announced that she wanted to raise money to send to China to help the children who are still there. She also told me that she really wants to go back to China :) If anyone has any fund raising ideas for a 7 year old feel free to chime in :)
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15829
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15886
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15829
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15886
Friday, January 18, 2013
An awesome read!!!
I am going to post some links to a Love Without Boundaries blog that deals with the changing situation in China's orphanages. It is an amazing article and provides answers to just about every question I have been asked since coming home with Sofie. Please read. If people aren't educated and realize what happens and why, it will never change.
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15660
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15664
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15745
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15688
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15770
Hope you enjoyed it and learned something :)
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15660
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15664
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15745
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15688
http://www.lwbstories.com/?p=15770
Hope you enjoyed it and learned something :)
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Happy New Year a little late!!!!!!
Happy New Year to everyone. It has been a while since I posted on here . So much has happened the past month that I don't even know where to begin. This is going to be a long one so bear with me.
December was filled with one appointment after another. Sofie had an evaluation with the ENT speech pathologist and several evaluations with the school district. She now attends speech therapy at the ENT office on Mondays and Tuesdays, has a two hour speech class with 5 other kids through the school district on Wednesdays and Fridays and a one hour appointment at home with the deaf and hard of hearing teacher on Wed mornings. Somewhere in there I have to fit in Audiology appointments too and I work on Thursday and Friday........ I am pooped :) Sofie just trudges through it all and then has a nap on the way home :) Of course, I could be pooped because of the pneumonia that I managed to catch just before Christmas. I finally got the last of the ornaments on the tree on Dec 24!! That is unheard of in my home.
Sofie's genetic results have come back negative. Her hearing loss was not caused by a mutation of the Connexin protein. To add some mystery to the mix, she aced her hearing test without hearing aids last Wednesday. She still can't hear, but, she passed the bone conduction test with flying colors!!!! In short, this means that she does not have sensory neural hearing loss, just conductive hearing loss. That means, if I understand it properly and feel free to correct me, that there is something structurally wrong that is causing her hearing loss. Her CT Scan was negative though so it is nothing in the inner ear! The only thing left to do is an MRI which she will have to be put to sleep for and intubated so I don't think we are willing to do that just to satisfy our curiosity. We still are no closer to figuring out why she lost her hearing and we have decided to stop trying to figure it out. It is what it is and we are fine with that :) They were also able to test her hearing at all the upper and lower Hertz. I tell you, Sofie was a rock star at this appointment. She did the entire audiogram without even flinching. It must have taken over a half an hour and the whole time she just sat there with her headphones on and put rings on a stand whenever she heard the noise in her ear. You know you have done well when you completely impress a pediatric audiologist. The results of the upper and lower sound test showed that at the levels above and below speech, her left ear drops from being mild hearing loss to moderate hearing loss just like the right ear. Her hearing is a little worse than we had thought, but, the audiologist was able to fine tune her hearing aids to make up for it. We also had new ear molds done as Miss Fancy Pants has grown again and the ear molds are now too small......yeah!! We also showed up at the audiologist with a dead battery in one of her hearing aids.......oops! Mother of the year right here :) So so far we have lost the cleaning kit for her hearing aids and found it, lost a hearing aid and found it, shown up in audiology with a dead battery! The audiologist just laughs at us now. That reminds me, I haven't told you the story about the lost hearing aid..............
I have decided to just post whatever I manage to get down in writing in a particular day. I started this post 4 days ago and never finished it, so .......to be continued...............
December was filled with one appointment after another. Sofie had an evaluation with the ENT speech pathologist and several evaluations with the school district. She now attends speech therapy at the ENT office on Mondays and Tuesdays, has a two hour speech class with 5 other kids through the school district on Wednesdays and Fridays and a one hour appointment at home with the deaf and hard of hearing teacher on Wed mornings. Somewhere in there I have to fit in Audiology appointments too and I work on Thursday and Friday........ I am pooped :) Sofie just trudges through it all and then has a nap on the way home :) Of course, I could be pooped because of the pneumonia that I managed to catch just before Christmas. I finally got the last of the ornaments on the tree on Dec 24!! That is unheard of in my home.
Sofie's genetic results have come back negative. Her hearing loss was not caused by a mutation of the Connexin protein. To add some mystery to the mix, she aced her hearing test without hearing aids last Wednesday. She still can't hear, but, she passed the bone conduction test with flying colors!!!! In short, this means that she does not have sensory neural hearing loss, just conductive hearing loss. That means, if I understand it properly and feel free to correct me, that there is something structurally wrong that is causing her hearing loss. Her CT Scan was negative though so it is nothing in the inner ear! The only thing left to do is an MRI which she will have to be put to sleep for and intubated so I don't think we are willing to do that just to satisfy our curiosity. We still are no closer to figuring out why she lost her hearing and we have decided to stop trying to figure it out. It is what it is and we are fine with that :) They were also able to test her hearing at all the upper and lower Hertz. I tell you, Sofie was a rock star at this appointment. She did the entire audiogram without even flinching. It must have taken over a half an hour and the whole time she just sat there with her headphones on and put rings on a stand whenever she heard the noise in her ear. You know you have done well when you completely impress a pediatric audiologist. The results of the upper and lower sound test showed that at the levels above and below speech, her left ear drops from being mild hearing loss to moderate hearing loss just like the right ear. Her hearing is a little worse than we had thought, but, the audiologist was able to fine tune her hearing aids to make up for it. We also had new ear molds done as Miss Fancy Pants has grown again and the ear molds are now too small......yeah!! We also showed up at the audiologist with a dead battery in one of her hearing aids.......oops! Mother of the year right here :) So so far we have lost the cleaning kit for her hearing aids and found it, lost a hearing aid and found it, shown up in audiology with a dead battery! The audiologist just laughs at us now. That reminds me, I haven't told you the story about the lost hearing aid..............
I have decided to just post whatever I manage to get down in writing in a particular day. I started this post 4 days ago and never finished it, so .......to be continued...............
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